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Tech careers for first-gen Africans — staff engineer & beyond

In The Quiet Climb · by brother_tunde · May 3, 2026

Took a six-month posting in Lagos through my company. I am West African by background but had not lived on the continent since I was eight. The work pace is different. The people in the office do not ask me where I am from. My mother is the happiest she has been in years. I am writing this from a balcony at sunset. Brothers thinking about a continent rotation — ask the questions. I will answer honestly.

In First-Generation American · by brother_marcus · Apr 22, 2026

My father's auto-body shop has been in the family thirty years. He is sixty-seven and slowing down. My younger sister wants me — the engineer — to come home and run it. She would run operations. I would carry the name on the building. I love what I do now. I love the shop too. The math is not the question. The identity is. First-gen brothers who have been here — how did you decide?

In The Long Hallway · by brother_jelani · Feb 1, 2026

I am at the point in my career where I can see the next step but cannot get there alone. Looking for a brother who has lived through it — building distributed systems at a serious scale, navigating the politics of staff+ engineering, balancing it with family. Reply or DM. Open to monthly calls.