Tunde Adebayo

I am a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) based in London. My clinical training is in cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy, with additional training in narrative therapy and culturally informed practice. I work primarily with African and African-diaspora men, with a clinical focus on depression, complicated grief, identity work, and the long arc of psychological repair after racial trauma.

My own path into this work was through my own therapy. I came to the U.K. from Nigeria at twenty-two and spent the first decade of my adult life thinking the difficulty I was experiencing was a normal cost of immigration. It was not. By the time I started therapy at thirty-three, I had built a life around symptoms I did not have a name for. The work I did with my own therapist over four years is the work I now help other brothers do. I do not pretend my path is everyone's path, but the specific experience of doing this work as a Black or African man is the lens that shaped my training.

My clinical approach is structured. The intake is thorough — we spend the first two or three sessions building a picture of where you are, where you have been, and what we are trying to do. We then set explicit treatment goals together. The work that follows is talk-based and tends to include homework between sessions — writing exercises, behavioral experiments, thought-record practice. I am not the right therapist for brothers who want unstructured support; for that work, psychodynamic or supportive psychotherapy may be a better fit, and I am happy to refer.

I do not pretend to be neutral on race, immigration, and fatherhood. Those questions are the soil this work grows in. The brother who has been told for fifteen years that his frustration with workplace racism is 'overreaction' is not going to be helped by a therapist who repeats the same framing. The brother who is grieving a father he lost to a healthcare system that failed him is not helped by a therapist who treats the system as neutral background. My practice takes the social context seriously while keeping the clinical work focused on what is treatable in this room.

Sessions are fifty minutes. I see clients via video — most of my caseload — and in person at my consulting room when geography and schedules allow. I have a small sliding-scale list for brothers who would otherwise not be able to afford care; the list is currently full, but I review it quarterly and add new spots as existing slots close out. Standard sessions are £80 per hour or local-currency equivalent.

What I can help with: depression, anxiety, complicated grief, identity and immigration-related distress, father-son work in adulthood, work-related stress and burnout, men's experience in marriages and partnerships, the broader work of becoming the kind of man you wanted to be. What I cannot help with: active psychosis, active suicidality requiring crisis-level care, severe substance-use disorders that require dedicated addiction treatment. For those situations I will refer you to colleagues who specialize.

If you are considering this work, the first useful step is to write me a brief note about what you are dealing with and what you would like to be different. I read every note. I respond within a week. If we are a match, we will set up a no-fee twenty-minute consultation call to confirm that you and I are right for each other before any clinical work begins. The starting point is your own willingness to do this work. Everything else we figure out together.