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Therapy for brothers: what actually works
Wed, Jun 10 · Tunde Adebayo, Devon Carter, Yonas Tesfaye

First panic attack at forty-three. Thought I was having a heart attack.
In The Heavy Days · by brother_tunde · Mar 28, 2026

Sitting in a meeting. Sudden chest tightness. Hands numb. Couldn't catch my breath. Stepped out, sat on the stairs, was sure I was about to die. Cardiologist checked everything. Heart is fine. He told me, gently, that I was carrying a level of stress that my body had decided to inform me about. I am two months into therapy and on a low dose of an SSRI. Putting this here for any brother who is wondering if what he is feeling is real. It is.
Started therapy after twelve years of telling myself I didn't need it.
In The Inside Work · by brother_tunde · Jan 8, 2026

I had every reason to start sooner. Lost my brother in 2014. Marriage almost ended in 2019. Got laid off in 2023. Every single time I told myself I'd handle it. Every single time I 'handled it' by getting harder, quieter, and meaner to the people I love. Three months in now. Therapist is a Black man my age who doesn't act like he has it all figured out. The work is slow. The shame about needing it has been the heaviest part to carry. Putting this here in case it helps another brother move sooner than I did.